As I approach the 4th anniversary of my sons death, the 4th Xmas and Birthday without him, I look back at wonder how I actually got to here. This video is a stark reminder of just how much I have struggled throughout the years but I am still standing and that is hope.
So many people will be approaching the 1st Xmas without their son or daughter, many people ask me what I do at Xmas and this video talks you through my sons 1st anniversary, birthday and Xmas. There really is n...o right or wrong thing to do, you just have to do what gets you through another day.
I hear so many people tell grieving families, "you need to celebrate xmas", "you cant be alone at Xmas", "you need to get the tree up", you need to do this, you need to do that. In reality, we don't have to do any of these norms, we don't have to do anything except survive what I believe is the hardest time of the year for any bereaved family.
Sending love and strength to all those facing Xmas without their son or daughter x